She keeps fucking up the pronouns (2.5 years - I do not think there should be an excuse form her anymore)
And now she recently suggested my transition probably runs counter to "God's Plan"
-I don't believe in God. She knows that.-
Question: Should I expend anymore effort at all again trying to save the relationship?
or just, maybe its time to 'let it rip apart'?
Sincerely,
I am tried, I am nervous, I am angry, I am ready to kill someone or something, and I am anxious for Mikhail to come to Philadelphia, and will purge out the bullshit in my life until He gets here and Mikhail is in my arms.
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Sometimes religion plays a large role in whether a parent accepts their child's identity. Something that might help would be to show her that maybe God wanted it to be this way. Scientific studies have shown a significant correlation between transgendered individuals and hormonal/developmental oddities regarding one's sex (in other words, shit's biological and present at birth, not a choice.) If that's the case, well, God made that choice when He made you. God presents everyone with obstacles to overcome that will help them grow into good people. Perhaps your obstacle is to fight for your right to live as who you were truly meant to. It might be your place to help the community learn tolerance and acceptance for all God's creations, including yourself.
Of course, I'm not a religious person myself and that's just an argument I think would appeal to them. Pick apart what you think would work best with her, and expand where needed. Good luck!
A parent, no matter how stubborn, isn't someone you should consider giving up. That's just my opinion, though.
Every parent deals with it at their own pace - do not force them into it, it'll only make matters worse. Instead, just take things in stride and be confident in your own identity, then she'll follow in pursuit when she's ready.